SECOND TERM 2-DESIRE TO BE SELF-GOVERNING-

I want to talk about parent-adolescent collision which is a controversial issue .How many adolescents do not want to make his/her decisions on his/her own?  I am sure most of you tell me that none of them because you know it is a wish for our adolescents to be able to make things freely. Actually, it is our nature to want this, but the process in which we move from the adolescence to adulthood has some challenges that require being dealt with .

On the basis of my experiences, in this process so many conflicts come into existence automatically between the adolescents and their parents. Most of the parents, who have their children’s responsibility up to this process, want them to keep their advice and live however they like. For example, an adolescent has to arrive at home in the hours acceptable for his/her parents. These words probably must be said by a parent, but in the adolescents’ aspect these hours can be inconvenient.

To be honest, I am sure my mother and my father sometimes feel like an ordinary parent. I can understand them and they can understand me. However, not all of the adolescents and the parents have an ability to understand each other .I think, to overcome these challenging times there is just one thing to be done : EMPATHY..An adolescent must think what if he/she had a child? How would he/she act? Similarly, the parents must think their youth age. They cannot tell their children that I had never such problems like you. Another important thing during this process is attachment to parents. The more adolescents feel their parents on their sides, the more powerful they are against difficulties faced with in their future times.

As a result, if anyone knows their duties and responsibilities, this is not an insoluble problem.

                                                                                              MERVE BAYRAM